(A version of this post appeared on my previous blog two years ago, on my dad’s 100th birthday.)
Today is June 22, 2014—the 102nd anniversary of the birth of William Walton Wight.
My dad was an amazing man. He was talented, smart, and capable. He could build anything, fix anything, figure anything out. He loved poetry and liked to quote it, especially Robert Frost, Robert Service, and Holman Day. He was born in Oquossoc and raised in Bethel and he was the quintessential Mainer—practical, resourceful, and outdoorsy—until the day he died, even though he spent the last half of his life living in exile in Connecticut.
He liked people, and they liked him. “Everyone loved your father,” my mother once told me. From the way she said it, I knew what she meant—that he had one of those personalities that light up a room, drawing people in and effortlessly holding them enthralled.
My dad majored in metallurgical engineering at the University of Maine and worked at Pratt & Whitney Small Tool in West Hartford. He worked hard at his job, and, with a partner, he started his own small metals heat-treating business on the side—Anderson Specialty Co., which, remarkably, still exists today. (While he was involved with the company, it was very much a shoestring operation—he used to bring metal rods home and get my mother to temper them in her oven.)
But as busy as he was, there was never any question that his first priority was his family. He took my four older siblings hiking, camping, and rockhounding. He helped lead my brothers’ Boy Scout troop. They all built a wooden boat together from a kit—it, too, still exists today. They played Scrabble, did jigsaw puzzles, went to church, got a family dog.
And he and my mother brought the kids to Maine as often as possible. They learned the names of all the trees in the Maine woods and all the Maine minerals they found. In the mid-1950s they bought a lot on North Pond in Woodstock and then, together, they built our camp.
In a way, it’s remarkable that I know this much about my dad, when you consider that he died in 1958, more than eight months before I was born. But it’s a testament to his legacy, to the far-reaching influence he has had on my siblings and, indirectly but inarguably, on their children and grandchildren as well.
And on me.
I remember asking my mother once, when I was quite young, “How old was I when Daddy died?” She looked surprised, and explained gently that he had died before I was ever born.
“But I remember him,” I insisted.
And it seemed to me that I did. His legacy was to remain a vital part of the family he left behind, during my childhood and beyond—even now, more than five decades after his death.
His legacy is in the wooden boat and the family camp, where his musty suede camp jacket still hangs in the loft and his homemade four-foot level is stored in the tool closet.
It’s in the fact that by the time we went to kindergarten we could all identify feldspar, mica, quartz, beryl, tourmaline, and—our favorite because we loved the way it rolled off our tongues—lavender lepidolite.
It’s in the way none of us is afraid to tackle a building or repair project, confident that we can always figure it out as we go along.
It’s in the way, over the years, we’ve all been drawn to the state of Maine—three of us to stay—and the way, I think, we all consider Maine our true spiritual home.
It’s in the way we all love the woods, the water, our kids.
His legacy is in every part of our lives.
Maybe your memories of your father are so vivid because you are so much of him. My Great Nana Tressa died a few months before I was born. She knew I was coming and left me her Depression Glassware. We never but I am so much of her that I feel like we knew each other well. I hope that makes at least a little sense.
Thanks, Robin. I think each of the five kids in my family inherited certain genetic qualities from our dad, but, more than that, I think there is a kind of innate genetic memory we are all born with, whether we ever knew our parents (or grandparents) or not. It sounds like that’s what you share with Great Nana Tressa, too.